Life can be rough

Current location: sunny, very windy Cancun, Mexico. Vacation. Full disclosure: this girl lives for vacation. I dream about, plan, and work hard for vacations. 

Here is what happened today on my fabulous vacation. Wind. Making the Caribbean Sea VERY choppy. As the boyfriend and I played in the very rough waves a couple go thoughts crossed my mind. So I thought I would write about them. 

Life can be very rough (just like the sea)… How we handle the situation largely determines the outcome.
 Some days are rougher than others. Yesterday the waves were gentle and super fun. Not to say today wasn’t fun…. Just different. You can’t really judge one day by the last day. Don’t let the struggles of one day carry into the next. Wonder how much different life would be if we could just Let things Go and move on. Just a thought. 

The same circumstances are navigated differently by different people. The boyfriend is an entire foot taller than I am. He struggled less for that reason. He also weighs a little more than I do. You can not judge your experience based on someone else’s. This life is yours to live. Experience. Enjoy the ride. 

Don’t give up. Today it seriously felt like Tonya VS. the sea. And I felt like I was losing. Getting beat up. One wave felt like it slapped me straight in the face. However I was determined to not give up. The reward was totally worth it. As in life. Things that are worth it, don’t usually come easy. 

Surround yourself with people who have your back. Dave (that’s the boyfriend) saw me struggling a time or two. So he reached out and grabbed my hand. He even said “I’m going to just hang onto you, because if I don’t, you seem to float away.” I’ve found an important key in life is surrounding yourself with people who let you be yourself. But also call you out when you are not so much being yourself. Also keep you from danger (don’t let you drown) and don’t let you backslide. I am blessed to have a LOT of these people in my life. 

Sometimes we just need to take a break. Relax! It’s quite amazing how a break from your normal life can reset you. Makes you take some deep breaths. Stop, realize what is really important in life. Think on how blessed you are. Getting some space from the daily stresses of life= Good. 

Life is full of things to be afraid of. The sea is a very dangerous place. Those waves were very powerful. Like nothing I’ve ever experienced. However, we can’t stop that from letting us live. Being in a foreign country were we don’t know the culture, the language, the customs… Could have stopped us from exploring, but it didn’t. Be safe. Have fun. But live life.

I love the sun, sun makes me extremely happy. Winter in Minnesota sucks for a lot of reasons, one of those reasons is lack of sun. However… Too much sun isn’t good either. Just ask parts of my body that got slightly red due to overexposer. Shade became our friend. Life is about finding balance. We can’t just always sit on the beach. Life is more than vacation, I guess. 

 Life can be rough… But it’s also a wonderful, magical, fantastic adventure. Embrace the ride.  

That’s all for now!


Attitude is everything…

confession: I am not perfect. Okay. That’s not a real revelation. Here’s the deal though. I have been struggling with my attitude more than I would like to admit. Here’s what happened on Saturday. I had absolutely nothing to be cranky about. I had the whole day to do whatever I wanted and plans to hang out with the boyfriend and my besties (which I was excited about). However apparently when I got dressed in the morning I out my cranky pants on. 

  Thinking maybe I need those ^^^^

I had an attitude that was simply no fun to be around. I knew that it was me and only me who could change out of my cranky pants. The worst part was that I was even crankier that I couldn’t shake this attitude. Lecturing myself for being cranky. Luckily I was able to shake it before hanging out with the besties… Unfortunately the boyfriend didn’t get so lucky. However… I’m pretty lucky that he puts up with me regardless. It was still in the back of my mind though as far as why I choose to be so cranky and made a conscience effort to not wear those pants on Sunday. Well, as if Pator Brian was reading my thoughts… the topic of the message on Sunday at church was about making lemonade. Watch the message here if you are interested. The topic was a bit broader, about when life is knocking you around and handing out lemons. How to react and make the best out of it. I…. Brought it down to smaller scale and took a “make lemonade” every single day. Let me tell you the rest of Sunday was fantastic. I was in a good mood from the moment I left church. I went for a walk later in the day and…. This happened:  

 got me a little DQ mini blizzard. Decided to keep walking to burn off a few of those calories… And then Mother Nature decided to see how good I was going to do this “make lemonade” thing. I was over a mile away from home and it started legitimately raining. I couldn’t help but smile. I embraced the rain and enjoyed it. (Had this happened Saturday I can promise I would have reacted differently. Much differently). When I got home I looked like this:  

  Drown rat. Soaked. But smiling. Choosing the smile felt better. No lie. Here’s where it gets real. It’s Wednesday now and I have been in and out of making lemonade and having a sour attitude all week. Work in progress I guess. That’s why I’m writing this. As a reminder that it really is up to me how I view things. My choice how I react. And only I can choose my attitude. Choosing Joy is what I strive for. Whether or not I always do it… It another story. My day really is a whole lot more enjoyable when I choose to keep the cranky pants In The closet. Progress, not perfection…. Right?!? Thanks to all my people for putting up with me. Let’s make some lemonade 😉